in 2002, she organized and hosted the very first "Musim Women's Conference" in Houston, TX. Please can you help me. I climaxed during a dream, but see no discharges on my underwear and feel no wetness when I touch my private parts, do I have to bath? So when there isnt a female scholar, you go to male scholars. I the morning when I woke up I saw a spot of discharge on my liner, it had dryed but it looked like a thin and light yellow discharge. 1. Assalamualaikum dear sister even the doctors. about the wetness that it is Mathy, then this does not render Ghusl obligatory, but one is obliged to wash the place that it has come in contact with., On the other hand, Maaliki scholar, Al-Mawwaaq, the author of At-Taaj wal-Ikleel, says (quoting from Al-Mudawwanah): If a person wakes up from his sleep and finds wetness in his bed sheet, then if it is Maniyy, hehas to perform Ghusl, and if it is Mathy, he has to wash his penis. Say aothobillah whenever you get the thought. And also this only happens rarely and totally uncontrollably. Help us get to 900 supporters this month. Reading this article and others I have seen on this website, I get the strong sense that Muslims obsess too much about sex. It is allowed unconditionally(Imam Ahmads opinion who regarded maturation as cleaning ones nose). - GupShup Forums, http://www.muslimahsource.org/motherhood/muslimahs-guide-to-puberty-how-to-talk-to-your-daughter-about-adolescence/, Quandary of Female Vaginal Discharge | MuslimMatters.org, http://muslimmatters.org/2010/09/22/quandary-of-female-vaginal-discharge/, Sexual Activities Beyond The Norm: What Should We Teach Our Teens | MuslimMatters.org, A Womens Guide to Spirituality in Ramadan during Menstruation and Postnatal Bleeding - MuslimMatters.org, A Women's Guide to Spirituality in Ramadan during Menstruation and Postnatal Bleeding | MuslimMatters.org, Quandary of Female Vaginal Discharge: Pure or Impure? And your right, many sisters are ignorant of these issues because they dont bothering looking properly. So please give me clear answers whether its completely wrong or just fine and give some proof if you can. If black dog represents shaytan, does this mean that in islam woman is considered as satin? it continued untill 7 am the next day. Make your daughter feel comfortable, do not pass any embarrassing comments, put a smile on your face but be precise. It could be that a woman, as we discussed in the article and in QA with sh. That mutaabaa does have a sound chain of narration. Is it permissible to watch recorded videos of female teachers, as part of an online course, during Islamic fasting? Anyway, I am finding myself getting aroused by very random things and unintentionally. I think doubts are baseless, but cant judge in a state of doubts.. vaguely recalls something but is not sure either), again keeping in mind that extra vaginal discharge could be completely hormonal or due to the normal menstrual cycle? Refer to my comment above akhi, it should clear things up inshAllah. Does a woman have to do ghusl if she has a wet dream? The Prophet said: Yes, if she sees water (a discharge). Umm Salamah covered her face and said, O Messenger of Allah, can a woman have an erotic dream? He said, Yes, may your hands be rubbed with dust. The Prophet peace be upon him ordered us in another hadith to pray towards a sutrah and to come near it (meaning not be too far away from it). thankyou verymuch for this post.my question is ,for a female, if she had a sexual dream and attained orgasm (involuntary contraction of vaginal muscle with pleasure),but her private area is not extra wet..she has to make ghushal?? when i finally woke up, i remembered having wet dream with orgasm but i didnt noticed any wetness. Assalam O Alaikum can waking up while sexual arousal in sleep without orgasm need gusal? Can you clarify this for me please. It covers all aspects of life. There is also a strong sensation to touch or rub the private area or to take something inside the vaginal area specifically. Could you please advise me too? Dream. These cookies track visitors across websites and collect information to provide customized ads. 1 Some people wake up in the . May Allah reward you, Umm Reem, for clarifying this for the Muslim female population especially the reverts, who have no biological Muslim mothers/sisters to guide them in their immediate family. 3.WHAT is the ruling over discharge secreted without sexual passion like that by cold or diseaseh or may be its not pain i cant explain that what that is. Sometimes your bladder is full after a nap and you cant really walk or wait to see if something flows out. Is it permissible to watch recorded videos of female teachers, as part of an online course, during Islamic fasting? Asalamu Alaikum! I hope to get the authentic answer so I can avoid sin .. I dont see what they can do about it. I am one who suffers from both waswas and wet dreams quite regularly. Remembering an orgasm or not is of no consideration when it comes to wet dreams. yes, if you were sexually aroused. Umm Reem JazakAllah for guiding us all. However, since vaginal discharge is a common quandary among Muslim women and a subject of controversy among the scholars, I wanted to write a separate entry on this. I saw a wet dream. Pour . Question # 372: Wet Dream (Ihtilaam) while Fasting Jazakullahkharian was Salamualaykoom. Now te other opinion states that u do ghusl. Assalaam alaikum Usually, it is only pre-fluid (mazi) and not semen Sleeping position may also affect frequency of these emissions. 5. Assalamu Alaikum, You said men and women are different but then you posted the fatwa which states that they are not different in this issue and both of them do not have to perform ghusl unless they see liquid, `Aishah said: Someone asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) about a man seeing himself discharging in his dream though he does not feel wet., Umm Salamah asked: What about women, O Messenger of Allah?. When I went back to bed I felt discharge do you think this discharge could be a result from the dream?? How do I know if what Im feeling is pleasure or not? I will tell you a time i had a bad dream. Naturally, you need to empty it so your body can make more. Saba Syed (aka Umm Reem) is the author of International award winning novel, "An Acquaintance." Umm Salamah said: Umm Sulaym came to the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alihi wasalam, and said, O Messenger of Allah, Allah is not too shy to tell us the truth. Is ghusl required after a wet dream if only mazi is present? Obviously the daughter was totally unaware of what she was doing. or i can pray without having to do ghusl? Just to clarify, Umm Salamah ra. I woke up just as it was happening. If you go to an orthodox Jewish blog, I am sure youll find many discussions there strange as well, as the Torah-based laws are even harder and stricter than Muslims. .. 2. What can i do if i have wet dreams durin fastin.does it in anyway affect my fast.jazak Allahu khairan. Wet dreams are caused by a build up of semen and other reproductive fluids. Hence, I decided to contribute this piece, along with the help of a professional Gynecologist, Dr. Fatimah Lalani and Shaykh Yasir Qadhi, so it may help and benefit all the sisters who read this. Yes, she can count it as only breaking wudhu. When a woman is sure she didnt climax in a dream but still feels wetness, sweat etc washing her private part, can she consider it as a discharge that breaks wudu only? Perform Wuzu the way you would for salah but do not wash your feet (unless you are standing on something elevated, like a stool). The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Analytics". does that mean ive been aroused even though I was trying not to think of it? If you are unsure that you really did experience an orgasm while sleeping without finding any wetness upon waking up you can also assume that it didnt happen because certainty is not lifted by doubts in the sharia. A woman will feel fulfilled and satisfied with an immediate drop of tingling in vaginal area and all sexual sensations. If you wake up from sleep and you find wetness, even if it is just Mathy (pre-seminal fluid)as you said, and you remember having a wet dream, then you are obliged to perform Ghusl according to the Hanafi school of jurisprudence. The intention is the fact that you for example want to pray maghrib 3 rakahs, so that intention should be in the persons heart and is not to be pronounced with the tongue before you start the prayer. Boys and girls, Muslim and non-Muslim alike. Right now there is no extra discharge even. i have had an orgasm while sleeping and im not sure if i saw discharge or not but any way i prayed the next day without ghusl and i certainly did not know that i have to ghusl before i pray so what i want to know is , will god accept my prayer ? A brief summary of the requirements for the Ghusl follow. Explained above. http://muslimmatters.org/2010/09/22/quandary-of-female-vaginal-discharge/, As Salamualaykoom wa rahamtullah, but when you are awake and involuntarily a sexual thought comes across your mind and we get aroused and colorless liquid is experienced are we accountable for that too? And if you dont think this had any effect on men who read this, you dont understand a mans desire. She is a pastoral counselor for marriage & family, women and youth issues. Knowledge is power and the empowerment of these young Muslim women would so clearly come from the most perfect of sources were they aware enough or fortunate enough to be thus informed. Yes, there is no doubt that the Hadiths meaning is correct, as similarly has been narrated in Muslim (#311 and #314) and others. A lot of men and women are in a dilemma on this issue,especially those that are in situations beyond their control. In a quick serach, this is the closest ruling i could find in my dreams. I get very scared when I pray because im very worried that it might happen. Set it and collect blessings from Allah (swt) for the khayr you're supporting without thinking about it. Yasir Qadhi: To be honest we rarely find such DETAILED discussion in fiqh books, most likely because men are not as familiar with this topic as they should be. It led to my other question: Can wet dreams in itself mark the onset of a girls puberty (balagha) making her accountable for her religious obligations like fasting and hijab? So both, her narration and the one stating that a woman passing in front of a man cuts off his prayers, both these narrations are authentic, so the scholars take them both into consideration when making the ruling, and they say that if the woman passes in front of him then that cuts off his prayer, but if she is like Aisha was in the bed in front of him, then her presence does not cut off his prayer. Also, do not wait until her menstrual cycle starts. There are very few female scholars that we know of. When a person wakes up and has had an erotic dream, but he does not find any wetness on his clothes, then he does not have to do ghusl, according to scholarly consensus, because, When a person wakes up and has had an erotic dream, but he does not find any wetness on his clothes, then he does not have to do ghusl, according to scholarly consensus, because. Assalam Alaikum Sister Keep yourself busy doing constructive things, volunteer, visit the elderly, help with little kids and try not to spend too much time alone. this article really helped me alot On another note, it would be good if one of the sisters at MM write a post about menstruation and the difference between it and the other type of blood (which has different color and smell than the blood of menstruation) that might continue to come out even though the womans period might be over (hayd vs istihaadah), because I think a lot of sisters might not know the difference, and so as long as they see blood they think they are still in their menstrual period and do not pray, where in reality their period might be over and that blood which is still coming out is not due to menstruation and so they are required to pray, but they dont even know that and they think that they are still in their menstrual period and that they are not required to pray. Please show me the best way for dawah to someone who used to pray fast, etc? yes, jazakAllah khair for clarifying thissome of the translations cause confusion when they translate a menstruating woman which actually means a woman who has gotten her menstruation i.e. assalaam alaikum Ustadh Sufyan Qufiis an advanced seeker of knowledge, originally from Algeria, who grew up in France. And, with the invention of contraception, modern obstetrics and gynecology, prophylactics and paternity testing, sex is not as harmful as it used to be in biblical or quranic times. Also as for my doubt on having wet dream I want to ignore it as I feel if I should perform ghusl, same thing might happen again tommorow. I told my husband and he thinks it may be an infection. Ali bin Zaid bin Jadan is weak (At-Taqrib), I feel terrible knowing the fact that one has to perform ghusl if one sees a wet dream. Dont be so hard on yourself stay away from anything that induces these thoughts: sexual movies, magazines, pictures etc. The reality is, we should understand the physiology of what happens and how external factors influence it. suffering from such situations. When I wake up from sleep straight after having a wet dream, I am certain that nothing came out of me, whether maniy or madhiy, but because of a great deal of waswaas [whispers from the Shaytaan; persistent intrusive thoughts], I examine the urethral sphincter, as if I can find something small inside it, and I squeeze the penis but nothing comes out, and I think it most likely that this is not maniy. it is hard to explain a female ejaculation but if she had an orgasm she has to take a shower. Am i allowed to kick my son out of the house? As for the practise of sprinkling water in ones garments to purify them, it should be avoided. 4. This fatwa states the differences between the discharges of women. I dont indulge in these thoughts and I dont want to think them and if they do come Im always worried if Ive discharged and im always checking. If this is what is meant, then it is better to say that Allaah is not shy to speak the truth. Jazzak Allahu Khair. Novels/magazines/internet anything that triggers emotional cues And Allah knows best. [Ala al-Din Abidin, al-Hadiyya al-Alaiyya], Allah, Most High, says: And if you are in a state of full impurity, then take a full bath. [Quran, 5:6], And Allah knows best. wAllahu taala alam. Salaam. And a lot of taboo topics are in the area of human sexuality. . Answer: The ' asl (original) is that she has not had a wet dream, so until there is yaqin (certainty) she does not have to take a bath. If a female asks these types of questions which affects her prayers then i do not think she should abstain from asking since i agree with the sister that there is no shyness in religion and one should ask if in doubt. I know this is haram but is she has to ghusl? If i dont indulge in these thoughts but it randomly pops into my head and i discharge is my wudu invalid? and only washed her area and made wudu. He prevented ejaculation; does he have to do ghusl? I washed myself and went to work thinking of all this again (and probably had more wetness appearing therefore) and when I came to work after few hours in toilet I felt that wetness again. This matter is not as simple and clearly distinguishable for sisters as it is for brothers, so it must be thoroughly explained. However let me ask you and everyone else who deem it acceptable for men and women together to speak about such explicit matters, if you knew the messenger of Allaah sallallahu alayhee wsalam, his wives and companions were reading this, would you dare utter such words like: do i need to take ghusl before zohar namaz/salat? This is the closest that one can get to being sure. Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. I have 2 3 questions which you have already discussed before but due to some different situations i have been confused getting a correct answer. . 3 . 4. please i need an answer ASAP. Why is masturbation not allowed? It is not allowed at that point to use ones own hands or any instrument to insert or rub vaginal area to reach orgasm and feel satisfied. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other. What to Do after a Wet Dream? - SeekersGuidance Id been trying to finalize my article on this topic for almost one year now but :). You can search for fatwa through many choices, Al-Madhy (pre-seminal fluid) and al-Wady (white penile secretion). http://www.muslimahsource.org/motherhood/muslimahs-guide-to-puberty-how-to-talk-to-your-daughter-about-adolescence/. Can the Imam conducting the Nikah also be one of the Witnesses? . And some women need a detailed answer! If a person masturbates when they are awake and this causes the ejaculation, then that is different than a wet dream and it also has its different ruling in Islam since it is voluntary ejaculation where as the wet dream is not. Considering the world we live in, it is probably already on their minds and they might have already heard some stuff from their friends or saw something on television (aka the devil in a box). Usually when I am afraid to see any man in my dream or even think of such things awake, I experience a wet discharge, like lubrication, the one that only breaks wudu, so I guess I was having it that moment as well and may be even had during a sleep already. Praise be to Allah. She asked, Is that possible? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: How else would the child resemble his father or mother? I suppose her mother or elder sister or female relative should explain to her. 1. Even having thought like hugging your future husband and all is also haram? What Islam teaches us is transparency on subjects like this. I have a question regarding what a female should do if, while she is awake, she thinks desirous thoughts and thus this leads to discharge from the vaginal area. I would say start by educating them about their body parts, and how certain parts of the body are very private and needs to be well guarded and taken care of because we are Muslims and Allah has asked us to do so (and you can read some of the surahs WITH meanings to them etc. discharge after a wet dream is involuntary act. When I checked afterwards, I discovered Id left a large wet spot. Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features. I am a female, I ask these questions below to in shaa Allah make my ibadaat easy and avoid needless bathing, my non-Muslim family can say that I only spend time in toilet for ghusl and wudu as urinating takes a lot of time for me and preparation for salah therefore too. It was for antoher sister on another thread but similar situation: Its perfectly natural to have these thoughts and I suggest you dont focus too much attention and energy NOT to think about if. And i wake up little later worried if that breaks my wudu or ghusl because i cant really control what i am thinking at night def. I remember having no climax but still saw moisture. I cannot imagine anyone in their right mind saying yes. I have nothing much to add, but I pray it is of benefit to all who read it, ameen. Carlos, please realize that this blog serves a dual-audience of Muslims and nons. or i didnt had any wetness in the first place? It is said that certain foods which are considered hot can lead to nocturnal emissions. Brother Dean, I dont think there is anything wrong with discussing this issue, but I do agree that going too much into details may be better discussed in private among the women alone. Answer. I don't have much of wet dreams honestly and usually I am sure when I see them, because even if I don't remember the dream itself the moment when relaxation comes and you feel weak, climax etc, that moment I usually wake up. then our bedsheet become dirty or not ? dietary, and other factors are not e.g. Question: If she sees extra vaginal discharge and is confused about the dream (i.e. Because if there is no wetness when the person wakes up then how does he know that he had an orgasm while he was sleeping? - Having wet dream without ejaculation: If one has a wet dream but does not find any traces of ejaculation, there is no need for ghusl in this case either. i am a teen ager!! 2: [correct me if im wrong ] but i dont think thats a problem as long as youre covered. I had an orgasm from a sex dream during Ramadan. pls urgent response.. i never masturbate nor even touch my private parts for pleasure or any i just think of a guy in the need of love and suddenly i realize its just fake and try to push away those thoughts from my mind yet some times i find a colorless liquid after that, is ghusl mandatory in this case? I didnt see any specific discharge on my underwear so I placed my hand in my private part and I felt wetness. there is a difference between sexual excitement and orgasm. We all make mistakes but only a few of us actually reflect back and learn from it. Sis is it necessary to feel the sensation of orgasm as u discussed above if someone see every day and dont feel anything or dont remember the sensation of orgasm she should also do ghusl plx answer me!! (Please keep in mind that female genital area is always wet, and they do not necessarily always have extra discharge upon orgasm, so the matter is not as easy to discriminate as for men). Key Principles Relating to Certainty, Doubt, and Baseless Misgivings (Waswasa), And Allah knows best. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. Analysing great literary figures, particularly from the Bard himself to enable them to look inside someone elses mind and to think before they judged that fictional character for his/her failings.
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